Ahhh...the unwitting brilliance of Eminem. He's no Lupe or Jay-Z, but although, not my favorite rapper, I do honor him as a poet. His ideas are always worthwhile, and although many find his...verbiage, distasteful, offensive or unintelligent, I sort of welcome his viewpoints and his unique expressive take on the world at large. And the song the title references is pretty cool, so...
How many times have you said to yourself, and for that matter, to anyone who would listen--"I don't care what anyone else thinks...". I know I've said it at least once in the past month! In our heart of hearts, though, do we really believe that?
It seems an age-old question, but it is one that may not have just one answer: to what extent do other people's perceptions of you have an impact on the decisions you make?
Peer pressure, parental pressure, self-imposed pressure, all these outside, or inside, forces have the potential to make you act, or react, in ways that you normally might not if never exposed to those influences. My question is: Why? Why do we care? Why is it important? Why do other people's perceptions or expectations of who we are have so much of an influence on us? Or do they? Be honest with yourself when you answer. After all, it's just us.
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People’s perceptions and expectations of who we are has so much influence on us because we have a tendency to actually care about what other people think we might not say that we do but we really do care because that’s how most people base their decisions that they make off of what other people think of them for me sometimes but not all the time do I really care about what people say I mostly make my decision based on my feelings now don’t get me wrong I have made decisions based on what people thought of me because I would think that if I made a certain decision that more people would like me or something like that and that’s another thing that I think people think that will happen if they base their decisions off of what other people think that they would become more likeable or people would be there friends so therefore I have come to the conclusion that people perceptions and expectations do have a major influence on people and their everyday lives and really I don’t think that I have ever said that I don’t care what anyone else thinks but I might have thought it though
ReplyDeleteWhen people say, “I don’t care what they think,” usually means that they don’t care, but only for that second. I know that deep down inside when people say that, they really do care. What I believe is that we don’t want to be judged. That is also why I think it’s so important to others as well because they wouldn’t want other people judging them. I believe that’s the reason why other people’s perceptions or expectations of who we are have so much influence on us. Well, at least I know it does on me. Yes, I have said that before and, honestly, I didn’t care, but at that moment. I know in reality I really did care. I don’t really like being judged. I do not know the real reason behind it but I just don’t. I think it’s just the fact that other people are judging you and that’s all.
ReplyDeleteSo, I haven’t been on the computer and I didn’t see that we had a blog so I’m just going to do it now, while sitting in this Computing for College class…
ReplyDeleteYes, I admit I have said I don’t care what anyone thinks of me, but that is only true in some cases. For the most part, I live my life free as a bird collectively taking others opinions and forming my own. I also take my own opinion of myself and how I want myself to be and I, myself am the most influential person in my life. When I say “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me” I am mostly referring to those who do not matter to me anyway. For example, if someone I do not particularly care for says something bad about me, or thinks something bad about me, of course I take it in, figure out why it was said, but in a few minutes I blow it off and I don’t care. I care about how IMPORTANT people perceive me, such as family, close friends, family of my friends, teachers and coworkers. If a customer hates me because I did not drop everything to tend to her then it does not affect me, but, if a customer is dissatisfied with me after she spends the whole time with me through taking pictures and sales, then I seriously consider how I might change to please other customers. I care about what my friends think as well, I want them to think of me as trustworthy, bubbly and nice. Sure, things may happen where we brand each other a bitch, but I would not want them to permanently give me that label. If that were to happen, I would consider everything that may give them that opinion of me and try to change how I acted to be considered nice again. If a random girl thinks I am a bitch for bumping into her in the hallway then I blow that off and I don’t care. Family, I always care what they think, they are flesh and blood and love you no matter what, but, if a family member is hard headed and treats you like crap because they are arguing with someone in your direct home then I do not care what they think either…okay, I lied, I do, always. Lastly, teachers and coworkers; I hope to have the same respect from them that I give to them. I never sleep in Bunje’s class (because I respect her) but some teachers I do because I don’t respect them. In the end, it all comes down to respect I suppose.
Sometimes I wonder why I care what people think, why other people care what other people think, and most of all why people always say they don’t care when deep down they really do. I think that people just don’t want to care but its so hard not to. When I say I don’t care I really do care. People are so worry about what other people think about them and scared to be judged not knowing that the same person they think that is going to judge them has the same feeling inside them. I believe that caring is a part of living. Even though some people care more then others someone is still caring. I think that when someone says they don’t care they try to send off that they are strong emotionally but in reality they are showing a sign of weakness. I think people care what other people think about them because they are scared to be brought down. I think that low self esteem has a lot to do with it also. I come off if I have high self esteem but in reality I have low self esteem. Me knowing that I have low-self esteem people will only bring it down and I’m scared of that if I’m judged. I hate to be judged. I think that people influence who we act at that time basically because you want to fit in. I say I don’t care almost all the time but if I really didn’t care I wouldn't have said I didn't. People don’t want other people to see their faults or mistakes. People walk around to try to get other peoples approval of them selves when in reality they don’t know that all they need is approval from your self to make you feel comfortable and have your mind set to not caring. For me it is hard for me not to care. For example I could say that I don’t care that someone says something about me but it bothers me to a point just because it could be someone who knows nothing about me. I care what everyone thinks about me because that’s the kind of person I am. I think it’s harder for me not to care because of the personality that I have. Now that I’m other I’m getting the hand of not caring because sometime as hard as it is if you care you could hurt yourself also. I think when people say they don’t care it’s just a reflex phase and reality they care.
ReplyDeleteYes, most of us care what people think, but we're all gonna get to a point in our lives when were just going to know how to separate the good from the bad. I know ive gotten to that point where i dont have the need to satisfy anyone else based on my decisions, because i should be looking out for myself before anyone else. At the end of it all it is us that should be satisfied with how make our decisions and if you know how to pick your friends and your friends or the people around you appreciate you no matter what decisions you make then thats when you know youve surrounded yourself with people that look out for your benefit. If you have people constantly trying to influence your decisions, other than your parents because most parents know whats good for us, unless they have good intentions, you shouldnt have these people in your life. Ive said it before too, when i was younger, and i wasnt completely honest because i knew that i did care what other people thought. But now its different because i dont have the need to say it anymore, people that really know me should know already how i feel about other people's expectations and/or opinions, you can try to give me advice,try to tell me what you think, or even criticize me but in the end i make the decisions and i get the last word no matter what.
ReplyDeleteI believe that we say that we don't care what others think because we want to make our selves believe that we do not care. I can promise you that every person in this world cares about what at least ONE person thinks about them. Some people may care less then others but I believe it's mostly girls that are worried about what other girls think. If a girl talks about another girl its mostly because they are jealous and they try to make them self feel better. Nobody wants to be made fun of or talked badly about no matter what they say it hurts. It's a good thing we do care. If we did not care I think this world would be a lot worse then it already is. People would do whatever they want and say whatever they want if they didn't care. I say that I don't care what people think, but who doesn't? Honestly it's not that I don't care what people think it's that I don't care if they like me or not. Most people that don't like me have no reason for not liking me I mean some people I've never even said a word too. People need to stop judging a book by it's cover. I know I do but I wish I didn't and I try not to because it's not right.
ReplyDeleteEveryday someone tells themselves or someone else they don't care what people think, but in my opinion I don't think it's true beacause if it we're true then people wouldn't argue about what he/she said about this that and the third. I don't actually know if someone means it when they say it, but when i say it its because I don't. Mostly because we are in high school and in high school there's always senseless drama. If you think about it after high school do you think people will worry about how we look, where we are, how we're doing? That's the way i look at it. If that's how it's gonna be then why care now.I've made bad decisions during my high school life and people have talked crap about me because i tried to fit in with the rest, but when you think about it why run with the crowd? Maybe people feel pressured into thinking they need to impress the people they are surrounded by beacause they'll like them better. As a girl i know that girls alwayst what other girl abou cares think and you know it because they're always talking about she did this, and she said that, or she was wearing this. Maybe we do it because it's easy to judge. Exactly why I don't care what people think. god diidn't put me on this worls for people to like me, If they do great! If not then that's fine i'm not changing myself to impress others. Life is what it is and no matter what life keeps moving forward. I think people don't look at it that way, that's why they feel peer pressured.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone cares even though they say they don’t because they don’t want people so judge them. People hide behind a wall and try to convince people that they don’t care but they know deep down that they do, they might be able to convince people that they don’t care but they know that they cannot convince themselves. I know I say I don’t care and for a second I believe it, but then I know that I really do care but I try hard not to. The reasons I say I don’t care is because I don’t want people to think that I don’t want to show signs of weakness. I’m sure other people as do I say I don’t care because they are either afraid to show emotion or don’t want people to see how they truly feel. It’s important because you can’t just keep that wall up and say that you don’t car for the rest of your life. That’s also why I say that I don’t care because I don’t want to be taken advantage of. Other people’s perceptions or expectations to me don’t really have as much impact on me. I always say that people can think what they want, especially if you’re being judge by someone who knows nothing. People always make lies and they all say things that are not true so why let it get to you?
ReplyDeleteI think people care because its a way to help us define who we are when we cant do it ourselves. Influence is the key to a younger generations future . i feel as though if we werent being taught we wouldnt be able to find our way. when we teach we expect who we are teaching to take that and follow a path created by what we teach.Like in the movie inception even though its fiction it has good points .. like when they explain that the most simple idea could grow into a full plan. what people perceive me as determines their expectations of me , and when what they perceive doe not meet the expectations they end up confused. If you know who you are should it matter what other people think of you ? People trap themselves when they start to care about what the next person thinks of them it all becomes a cycle of that eventually gives birth to what we come to call stereotyping. Expectations Could Be used To hurt or could be used to build . for example if i sit next to a Caucasian women and we are both taking a test,lets just say shes big on stereotypes so she expects me as the black man to fail and she expects to pass, well time passes and the test come back , i pass and she fails , the way she perceived me at first did not meet her expectations for me to fail she just assumed without looking at the outside variables of who i was ? where i come from ? or what i am capable of.i say that to say this Be Not Afraid Of Who You are, for Who You are Is Special In Your Own Way. Molay W.
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ReplyDeleteEven though they say they dont I think everyone cares to some degree.They say they dont care in order not to be embaressed or made fun of.I think we care what others say because at one time or another we all wanted to fit in. Other people's perceptions or expectations of us influence us because its what humans do, if someone tells a girl her nose is to big she'll probably go out and get a nose job, or if someone tells a guy he's weak they are probably going to go out and prove them wrong. So caring about what others think is just human nature.
People perceptions of who we are have so much influence on us because, its human nature to want to be accepted and viewed in a positive light by your peers or the people that you surround yourself with, thats why a general idea of something that's "wrong", or "bad " is always, for the , most part something that is avoided by the general public, perceptions influencing minds is more common in children and young adults who are not yet comfortable with who they are and are not fully deveolped into what they're going to be, some people are lucky enough to be so confident in what they are, that they never have a though about what another person might think about them, all in all its a confidence issue those with higher self esteem dont usually experience a problem like this, but for the most part its natural for someone to be interested in what an outside view of themselves is. its one of those rare things that isn't necessisarily a bad thing but can be if you let it effect you in a negative way . .
ReplyDeleteWhy do we care on what people have to say? welll simply because we live with them or, hang out with them, or simply date them.. it sucks to have to say.. who cares only because someone objects to what u have an opionion on.. like who cares about who YOU date.. or who cares about what YOUR wear? the fact of the matter is .. its YOUR life, am i right? sure u might not care for a minute, but you probably say in your head.. for get them, or what do they know.. but thats exactly it.. who are you to tell someone what you think.. i mean unless your in debate or social class of some sort, but honestly.. its your life and why do u care what people think, your just gonna do it anyways rightt? other people look at eachother and see what they are doing because he/ or she has no idea how to become one.. one of anything, so why is it importantt? its really not, unless your a snobby nose hood rat that doesnt know who to live there own lives! WHO CARES ABOUT OTHER GIRL, well people.. be yourself because thats all that mattters these days!
ReplyDeleteWhy do we care? Well for one thing, I know why I care what people say about me, or at least why I care about a few certain things people say about me. I care because some times people say things that can really make you feel self conscious and bad about yourself. If one of my friends came up and said I was stupid I probably wouldn’t give a crap, but lets say an important person to me started bashing on me about what I don’t know, then I would care. Its all about what people say that can really make the effect. Just about every body wants other people to like them and think their cool to be around and some people really strive hard to ensure it. Well why wouldn’t someone try anyway? I know I want my friends to like me and when ever one of them sais something that seems harsh it makes me think about myself, and then I wonder what’s wrong with me? Now I’m not one to really care that much because I know who I am and I don’t need someone else to try to tell me who I am. I know what I’m good at and I don’t need to be worrying about someone else’s thoughtless opinion of me. Though I do have pride in what I do. I would certainly care if someone made fun of my car or my house because I put a lot of effort into them to keep them looking nice. I want to be noticed in a good way for certain things. If I had people coming up to me telling me I looked dumb in blue, then you can bet id never wear blue because I would always have that as a reminder of what people think. There are some things that even the most confident people would have trouble hearing about them selves and we as humans naturally try to impress others. It happens mainly with people we don’t even know. Meaning that if some random group of kids started talking about me, I would probably get really embarrassed and feel down. Yeah most of the time I can just laugh and say whos going to be laughing in ten years, but ill admit that some things will always get to me and ill care what people have to say about me.
ReplyDeleteI think we care about what people's perceptions or expectations on us because it's just a matter of taking other people you care about thoughts in to consideration. Isn't it right that people always say that we shouldn't care about what other people think when it is important to giving the right first impression so if you don’t care about what a person thinks about you your simply saying you don’t care about the first impressions you make on that person so basically we all care. Its important because other people's perceptions and expectations good or bad can really help us find out more about our selves and its always good to take other peoples considerations in thought because it can sometimes help you.
ReplyDeleteWhen people say certain things it bothers me. Like someone might say you’re not going to be anything. You barley know me & say that. Only God can judge me that’s how I look at it. Also people judge a book by its cover. Like someone might say you’re a bum because the way you dress, or you’re dumb because you don’t like to read. That doesn’t mean you’re a bum if you’re in sweats or dumb because you don’t like reading. It isn’t that serious relax. If someone called me ugly I wouldn’t care I don’t come to school to look good or as if it was a fashion show. I could careless of people’s thoughts of me. If everyone on this earth had a caring heart then that would care about how people feel or look about one another. I care what people say about me, or why I care about a few certain things people say about me. I care because some times people say things that can really make you feel self conscious and bad about yourself. If one of my friends came up and said I was stupid I probably wouldn’t give two shits., or say an important person to me started coming at my neck about what I don’t know, then I would care. It’s about what people say that can really make it hurt you. You don’t have to kiss anyone’s ass just to be friends with them. I would do anything I don’t have to just to be someone’s friend. There is plenty of people in this world who will like you for who you are. Just about every body wants other people to like them and think their cool to be around and some people really strive hard for it. I know I want my friends to like me and when ever one of them say something that seems bad it makes me think about yourself. I’m not one to really give two shits that much because I know who I am and I don’t need someone else to try to tell me who I am. I have pride in what I do. If someone was to say you suck at football I would laugh right in their face because I know I’m not the greatest but read the newspapers? Also I let my field play do the talking.
ReplyDeleteI know I’ve said...”I don’t care what other people think about me,” many, many times before. The times I say that I feel that I do care of what people think about me and the times I haven’t said it I feel that don’t really care what people do think of me. At a point in your life you will find that you have or will do something for someone because of what they think and you might not to stop yourself from doing it. That is what I feel that happens to many people at a point in their lives. Doing something for someone else besides yourself could be a good think or a bad, but it all matters of how you view it. I mean by that as in people have different opinions of good and bad things that should be done or shouldn’t be done, but at a point you have to do what you think is right and not think about what others might think about you after you do it. That is where people start to feel that they are being judged over what they think is right or wrong and what other people’s views on wrong and right things. People have always judged other no matter what it is and I think I do things sometime to make other people happy but it might not make be happy or I do things that I feel good about and others will feel bad. No matter what you or I do we will be watched and we will always have somebody looking over our shoulders and they will always have something to say. Don’t let anyone think you’re doing the wrong thing if you know its right go with your heart and don’t let people think for you live your life.
ReplyDeleteI personally don’t care what people think of me most of the time. I always look at situations like, I’m going to be myself and who ever doesn’t like it that’s on them. Use should be yourself and not try to fit it, but there are times where we have to fake the funk to get by. For example most students are not the same person outside of school. I know I am not. That’s because I know there is a time and a place for everything. If most students were the same in school like they are outside of school. Most of us would have probably gotten kicked out.
ReplyDeleteThe people I do care about what they think of me are adults. I never want an adult to be like, that kid is horrible, or that kid is a mess. If adults think of you that way, then that reputation will always follow you. Also you always want people to think the positive of you. You never know when you might need someone in life. If you are not as an jerk then no one will be willing to go the extra mile and help you out. Even if they do not know you I bet they would help you if they heard you where a great person. Im almost certain they wouldn’t mind. Now if you were the total opposite, someone who didn’t care about anything. Then why should him or her care enough to help you. They will simply say he or she doesn’t care and neither do I.
So therefore please don’t be that student who doesn’t care because one day you will care when everyone else doesn’t . These were just some examples of why I do and do not care what certain people think of me.
I really dont care what people about me because at the end of the day imma still do me. I think people always have to care because thats how they would define you or thats how they would get to know you. I dont understand why people just dont mind they own bussiness. If you know who you are should it matter what other people think of you ? I think people start to care when you look diffrent from a crowd of people or when you stand out. If you looked the same as everybody else i dont think people would care as much. But i love being diiferent thats what make me me. I mean it is good to care up to a certain point tho. For example if someone came up to u and started to laugh at u because the way you dress. You would of want to change ur style. Then you would be looking like everybody else.Now you the same as everyone else because someone cared about your bussiness just be yourself.
ReplyDeleteComing from my standpoint, we human beings are influenced by others to "fit in" with the rest of society.I know I wouldn't want to be a total outkast from everybody, so why not take other's opinions for yourself? Taking advice from people isn't always negative. A certain statement or idea given to a person can alter their life. Believe it or not, there are people out there who don't want to bring you down and simply want to better who you are. It might sound invasive of your privacy, but if it benefits you, just take the advice. Everyone wants to be viewed as a better person than they really are. It seems important for us to have a good self image and come off as though we're perfect. Many people attempt to impress others in order to be accepted by those people. Usually individuals who are "close" to us and mean something in our life often influence us. People grow up how they are raised generally with their unique twist on life. Other's expectations such as a father's expectation of his son is be the best. his son will want to impress his dad to show him how grwat he is. Our history was brought up from influence of other people or nations. America was influenced greatly by our British ancestors. Our military makeup and structure is closely related to our British cousins. Our great American inventors influence us still today and their ideas are still relevant today, a few hundred years into the future.
ReplyDeleteOne’s perception of the outside world or how others view them can change or influence their decisions. I feel that it is human nature to feel judged by other humans. It is the competitive drive inside of humans that make them feel inferior to others when they are judged or compared. Everyone has heard the sayings “don’t give into peer pressure” or “live above the influence”. Children can easily be influenced by others because they do not know better. Having parental figures around can either make or break a child in maturing properly and learning to make the right decisions. Personally, my parents raised me in a matter that I could differentiate right from wrong or good from bad. Unfortunately, there are kids that grow up that know nothing but what other people tell them. These “people” are not the child’s parents or guardian. With the child never having a secure family figure such as parents, they feel the need to be a part of something; whether that something is a group of friends, team, or even a gang. Throughout my years in school, I have noticed that there are always cliques. These cliques can range from any type of group depending on one’s interest, popularity, or social status. Kids In school feel the need to be “cool” and in order to achieve this they will do anything to be associated with this “cool” clique, even it means lying to appeal to this clique. No one wants to be a loner; therefore, being able to fit in is crucial to some. There are reasons why people’s perceptions have such an influence on others. People are constantly surrounded by expectations. These expectations make people feel that they have to live up to a certain potential in order to be “normal” or become accepted. These expectations can be expressed through advertisements or movies. For instance, teenage girls feel constantly pressured to impress other guys by having attractive physical features. This is because girls in advertisements are always attractive looking and this makes other girls feel that they have to look the same way. There are many other examples that reflects advertising having influence over people. Feeling the need to be accepted by others can have fatal consequences one some. There are many cases when a person has committed suicide because they felt that all was hopeless. In conclusion, other people’s perceptions have such a great influence on others because It is human nature that makes us want to be normal.
ReplyDeleteIt’s hard to understand why people care about what people think of them, maybe its because every living person has a self image of themselves and hope that other people will view themselves the same way. I think that when people get the wrong impression of who you are, it is frustrating because everyone wants you to see themselves as they do. I know sometimes I do thing so that peoples opinion will change because whenever people mention me I want people to have positive thoughts. So that it would make it easier in the future. Think about someone who is known for being a thief and a bad person you are going to hide your things and try not to be around that person. But if someone is known for being a nice loyal person you would treat them with respect and try to be with that person more. So depending on how people view you reflects on how you are treated in the world, that is why I think people care about what people think about them. Often times I hear people talking about me or someone tells me that someone was mentioning me, and when its positive things its good to hear it actually makes me happy because it makes me feel as though people see who I really am and that im a good person. But, when I hear people talking bad about me it gets me angry because that is just my immediate reaction, I’m not really sure why I guess not being liked is a feeling that people are not comfortable with. There are many times that I have come across though where someone hasn’t liked me and I really didn’t care, it all differs on how you’re feeling towards that person. For example if my mom said that I’m not nice I never do anything I’m lazy it would affect me a lot more than if somebody in class or in the streets said it because her opinion means more to me than theirs. I think some people say I don’t care what people think of me just because they get hurt when people have negative views upon them and try to tell themselves that they don’t care, but it is a natural emotion to care about other people’s views its inevitable that’s just how people are. I think that god made us that way because if people really didn’t care about what others thought about them then the world would not function correctly because everyone would just be corrupt.
ReplyDeletewe care about what people think about us because we want other people to like us. we dont want people to make fun of us or see any of our flaws. they usealy have a huge impact on the way we carry ourselves and act.some people dont care what other people think and just do there own thing but if everyone did thhat the world would get noware.peer pressure and other people judgeing us is what makes us get better it helps us better ourselves
ReplyDeleteWhen people judge you just by looking at you they are wrong. So when that happens it is what it is and they can go jump in a well. Those who decide they know when they only think they know have their own mental problems. Aside from that they may be true sometimes if you are the type of person to project your attitude on people.
ReplyDeleteThe only time I think it matters what someone thinks of you would be friends and family. Although friends wont always be your friends so its important they do tell you mean things because thats what friends are for. Family is another one, when you go to a gathering and they ask how you've been. Right after that they start talking about how much you've changed from a child and all this other non-sense that makes sense to all of them and not you. They do things like that because they care not to hurt your feelings. Those people who intentionally try to mess up your confidence are what I call haters. Haters are just people with issues that may or may not have been dropped to much as a child. They decide that nothing in the world is their fault and project blamb onto the rest of the world. We only take it to heart when its from someone we percieve to be our friend. Since they are not they would have a self bias opinion of you in which you are less of a person then them. When people are like that they seem to envy your confidence since their conceidedness is a form of their lack of confidence. They just want to see you be as miserable as them and pursue your crushed feeling as if it were a cat and mouse game. When people judge themselves however they usually are more critical. For instance when I project blamb onto someone its always myself. Maybe its just because in our heads we all have a higher opinion of what we should be and my higher opinion of what i should be is way off. Although I do have confidence my lack of it comes from doubting myself through fear of failure. Other then the whole hater thing when people judge you its all about your persona. The way you present yourself to people is a really important part of the adult world. When you are at a restaurant you wouldn't want to miss treat your waiter or waitress. They might mistreat your food or something like that. When you are looking for a job you aren't going to go in there and say "Yo waddup wit dis Piece do i geddit?" no you have to be polite. Having self control can be more of a chore for some people then living their life without a good job. Also when you are out with your friends trying to hit on girls or guys you have to be weary of what you say too. Girls arent always trying to get yelled at from across the room, even though sometimes they like that kinda thing. So I guess I am Whatever you say I am.